An Unusual Valentines

Happy Valentines Day!!!!

Couples dealing with infertility tend to love this holiday as it's a celebration of something we have, each other. My blogger friend Ashley describes it well... "Holidays are usually fairly painful when you're infertile. All the family oriented commercials start coming on TV, you see all the families out doing holiday-esque things that you are aching to do...etc. etc. etc. You don't need me to elaborate. But not Valentine's Day. It's all about couples. And happily, I'm included in this celebration! I see those sappy stupid romantic Valentine's Day commercials and think "I have that!""

She is so right, we have that and we have it well! I love my marriage and I have one of the best husbands in the world. So today I celebrate the two of us...

But first, I had to attend a baby shower… yes, on Valentines of all days!!!! It was a surprise shower for my friend Elana. We went through IVF#2 together, so no matter how hard it was for me to attend, I wanted to be there for her.

The beginning of the shower was a little challenging for me. There were 4 pg women there and a woman with a newborn. I avoided looking at the newborn because it was too painful. Out of the blue, this woman walks up to me, holds her newborn up to my face and says “look at this little guy, what’s a baby shower without a baby”. She was all smiles, I was not. Why me? Why out of all people in the room did she have to pick me, we never even met or exchanged names.

Luckily a few of my friends were there that I haven’t seen in several months. We were so consumed in catching up that I escaped from the reality surrounding me. My friend Mindy and I kept each other grounded. This time was hard for us both as I was surrounding by baby everything and she was missing her husband that passed just over a year ago. I love you Mindy!


Then it was time to open gifts, there were a lot of ohhhs and ahhhs over the cute baby items, and I’m proud to say that even I gave a few ohhhs and ahhhs myself! I'm even prouder to say that I was the last guest to leave and made it without a single tear.

My hubby picked me up and we walked the mall. We stopped at the Chinese massage place. Holy cow, those little Chinese people are strong!!! While they were really good, we came out feeling like minced meat. Then it was off for dinner and then a relaxed night at home.

To Kerry, my Valentine every day of the year...








My gosh, how could I ever not want to have a baby with this man???