Saturday, February 14, 2009

An Unusual Valentines

Happy Valentines Day!!!!

Couples dealing with infertility tend to love this holiday as it's a celebration of something we have, each other. My blogger friend Ashley describes it well... "Holidays are usually fairly painful when you're infertile. All the family oriented commercials start coming on TV, you see all the families out doing holiday-esque things that you are aching to do...etc. etc. etc. You don't need me to elaborate. But not Valentine's Day. It's all about couples. And happily, I'm included in this celebration! I see those sappy stupid romantic Valentine's Day commercials and think "I have that!""

She is so right, we have that and we have it well! I love my marriage and I have one of the best husbands in the world. So today I celebrate the two of us...

But first, I had to attend a baby shower… yes, on Valentines of all days!!!! It was a surprise shower for my friend Elana. We went through IVF#2 together, so no matter how hard it was for me to attend, I wanted to be there for her.

The beginning of the shower was a little challenging for me. There were 4 pg women there and a woman with a newborn. I avoided looking at the newborn because it was too painful. Out of the blue, this woman walks up to me, holds her newborn up to my face and says “look at this little guy, what’s a baby shower without a baby”. She was all smiles, I was not. Why me? Why out of all people in the room did she have to pick me, we never even met or exchanged names.

Luckily a few of my friends were there that I haven’t seen in several months. We were so consumed in catching up that I escaped from the reality surrounding me. My friend Mindy and I kept each other grounded. This time was hard for us both as I was surrounding by baby everything and she was missing her husband that passed just over a year ago. I love you Mindy!

Then it was time to open gifts, there were a lot of ohhhs and ahhhs over the cute baby items, and I’m proud to say that even I gave a few ohhhs and ahhhs myself! I'm even prouder to say that I was the last guest to leave and made it without a single tear.

My hubby picked me up and we walked the mall. We stopped at the Chinese massage place. Holy cow, those little Chinese people are strong!!! While they were really good, we came out feeling like minced meat. Then it was off for dinner and then a relaxed night at home.

To Kerry, my Valentine every day of the year...

My gosh, how could I ever not want to have a baby with this man???


  1. You 2 are just too cute together. Beautiful pics!!

    You are one brave woman, Jill....and a really great friend.

  2. I think you did great at the baby shower - but I still think it is crazy and irresponsible (!) to have one on Valentine's day! This is supposed to be a baby-free day for us! boo! But, I get it...and I'm glad you did well there. And, you are a beautiful couple! Really pretty pics!

  3. Bravo to you for making it through the baby shower. That was like a repeat of the lady at church that put the baby in your lap. People really need to stop and think about what they are doing.
    BTW, who took the great pictures of you and Kerry? Love them.

  4. You did so well at the baby shower. You are so strong. I love the pictures too!

  5. I echo everyone else's sentiments--you are a strong woman and an amazing friend!
    And of course you want to have a baby with your man--you two are adorable together!

  6. Oh my are one strong lady is right!! I could NEVER have gone to the baby shower...I'm proud of you!!

    And I second the comments on the awesome pics....are they recent?

    You two are going to make BEAUTIFUL babies just wait & see!!

    love you!


  7. Jill, I'm so proud of you and you should be proud of yourself. It took a lot of you to go. I can understand how hard that was for you. It was good though you had a few friends to escape with. I love the pics with you and Kerry. Sounds like the two of you had a wonderful Valentines together. Love you both.

  8. I am so glad you could enjoy the shower. I am glad I haven't been invited in a long while. Everyone else has already had their kids in my circle.

    Those pictures are beautiful. Did you use a tripod? And how is it that you have flowering trees already!? So pretty!

  9. Great pics of you two! I'm green with envy at your flowering trees! I'm glad you could enjoy the shower and visit with some friends - brave for sure.

  10. You are such a strong, strong woman. I can't believe that someone had a baby shower on Valentine's Day but you should be so proud of yourself for handling it so well. You should be proud of yourself for even going!!

    P.S. You and Kerry look so CUTE together!

  11. I am so proud of you. I know it could not have been easy at certain times to get through the day. You do have a wonderful hubby and I know he loves you so very much. Love all the pictures.I have one of them, but love to have some of the others.So glad you two had a wonderfrul Valentine's Day.
    Love you bunches,

  12. Proud of you. Such CUTE pics, too--just love 'em!

    The Other Jill


Thank you for your comment! Hugs, Kerry and Jill