tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post6309676640004123475..comments2023-11-02T03:22:49.680-05:00Comments on The Adventures of Tall Dude and Short Chick: 33 WeeksJill M.http://www.blogger.com/profile/03527626839439456919noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-30559908359598958972010-05-08T18:03:36.857-05:002010-05-08T18:03:36.857-05:00That nurse should never have been allowed to teach...That nurse should never have been allowed to teach your childbirth class nor should she be an OB nurse. She sounds like an unhappy person on a power trip. Hiring a Doula seems to be the appropriate move and will certainly make you less stressed when the time comes. You should enjoy this experience although some will say that's an oxymoron. Having had my 2 babies au natural, I am not qualified to discuss epidurals and pitocin. The only thing I asked for the 2nd time around was an enema only because I would rather have had another baby than have that first BM after my first child. (He arrived 20 minutes after I got to the hospital and I tore pretty badly.) It may have been my imagination, but the enema sped things up with Jeremy and he arrived 3 hours and 45 minutes after we got to the hospital. I roamed the halls before having the enema and stayed in the room thereafter but got in and out of bed to use the bathroom as long as they allowed me to do so. Everyone tolerates pain differently and every birth is unique. Make it the best experience you can and I'll be there in the cheering sectin for sure! Love you, Mom2pewoldthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09698184110667056063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-28573514954348517912010-05-06T15:58:11.972-05:002010-05-06T15:58:11.972-05:00I'm so sorry the nurse stressed you out. Some...I'm so sorry the nurse stressed you out. Sometimes the comments that they make can do more harm than good - I had a similar experience in the NICU with the head nurse who made a comment to me regarding breastfeeding that I wish she hadn't made because it really affected my perception. I'm not going to share it with you because I don't want to negatively impact you. <br /><br />We hired a Doula at 31 weeks from the hospital (recall that I was hospitalized for 3 weeks prior to giving birth) and it was the best decision ever. She was wonderful and was a great support to both Jeff and I during the whole process. After having doing as much medical treatment as we all have to get to this point, you are an extremely strong advocate for yourself and my doula was actually impressed with how strongly we advocated for ourselves. However, that being said, it was really nice to have her there to discuss and bounce things off of in the process of making our decisions during labour.<br /><br />One thing I found really important during labour was the simple notion of continuing to breathe, especially when the contractions hit. They hurt but if you try to remain calm and breathe your way through it rather than hold your breath and tense up, I found that it helped immensely. I started to freeze up when the contractions became really painful and hold my breath and they became even more painful until I remembered to take deep, calming breaths and then I could manage. You'll be fine whatever decision you make re: epidural/no epidural and it sounds like you're getting a lot of good information regarding pushing positions. One side note - I was not allowed to get up and squat to push after I had the epidural so if you have any desires of doing other positions other than flat on your back post epidural, you won't be able to or you will be strongly discouraged as I was (they say you can't feel your legs, you can stand up, etc. etc. but if you ask me, I think I could have stood up if I wanted to). Good luck with everything and finding a doula you're comfortable with. Interview a few!kayjayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18256420678906545238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-84764391993868784122010-05-06T14:25:06.992-05:002010-05-06T14:25:06.992-05:00You are moving right along...with everything! Time...You are moving right along...with everything! Time sure flies. :) And IVF debt free...yahoo!! <br /><br />And please don't stress over labor...I think some nurses try to offer realistic scenarios but they end up scaring people. I had no pitocin and never felt "tied" to my bed...I prefered not to be walking around anyway. As for me, I pushed and gave birth laying down and again, had no desire to be standing or sitting. I opted for the epidural because I didn't think I needed to be a mom superhero who was drug free :) but mostly because my sister in law attempted that, the baby wasn't coming, they had to quickly do a c-section, knock her out, and she missed the whole birth!? I had all these plans for a hospital bag, relaxtion techniques, pedicure (!), enjoy a few days off from work prior to the due date...none of it happened...and I still had a baby! :) Again, don't stress!<br /><br />I will add too, my doc originally told me to stay at home and labor as long as possible, then go to the hospital. Also, my nanny is a doula so if you want to ask her questions, let me know.<br /><br />Smiles, HeidiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-20339545568228709832010-05-06T10:59:22.486-05:002010-05-06T10:59:22.486-05:00Hey, Jill! I can't believe that nurse! I thi...Hey, Jill! I can't believe that nurse! I think the doula is a GREAT idea. I have a friend who used one and said that the doula was the reason they were able to resist the doctor's push for pitocin. We are thinking of finding a doula as well, but either way we are planning a midwife delivery at our local hospital, and the midwives are quite prepared to do things au naturale if at all possible, for which I'm now even more grateful! I knew hospital births by OB tended to be like what you describe, but I am shocked that the nurse would be so blunt about it. Although I guess if she's right, we should be grateful that someone is at least being honest.... <br /><br />About the diapers, I would be very grateful for a review, though we'll probably have to have some on hand before we hear from you on that :-) . I have a friend (one of the tickers on my blog) who's planning to use gdiapers, which sounded good to me. Have you heard of them (not that you want more options)?<br /><br />Your belly is so big! I'm starting to have a complex about how small I seem to be carrying. I have to keep reminding myself that my fundal height is fine, my weight gain is fine, she's moving around a lot, etc. I guess I just have kind of a long torso, and I suppose I should be grateful, but after all this time trying, I really want to look as pregnant as I am! <br /><br />Jill NJillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10446633785327721455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-76947133569295253892010-05-06T09:42:26.680-05:002010-05-06T09:42:26.680-05:00Whoa! I cannot believe the nurse told you that. Yi...Whoa! I cannot believe the nurse told you that. Yikes! I know you don't want to switch hospitals, but I am pretty sure that Baptist has labor tubs. If you are wanting to go all natural these things are the way to go and would improve your chances of being able to bear the pain. Also they may be more open to letting you walk the halls instead of just your room. I would check it out if you are interested. Congrats on being IVF debt free!!!! That is awesome! I know that has to relive so much pressure! Now you can enjoy the baby without that on your shoulders. :0D Baby belly lookin' good!Sharonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-72993396788845183262010-05-06T09:24:40.454-05:002010-05-06T09:24:40.454-05:00Gosh that nurse would have ticked me off too! I&#...Gosh that nurse would have ticked me off too! I've never heard of such a thing....I've delivered in two different hospitals and in two different states and neither hospital does Pitocin UNLESS you're being induced. I went on my own with Brayden, was NOT induced and never had Pitocin. I obviously did this time around because I had to be induced for medical reasons. Even if you do have it....ignore the horror stories....my UN-induced birth was WAY worse than my induced birth:-) As far as worrying about laying in bed, etc....seriously I was in so much pain that I would not have "wanted" to get up and walk. The bed was all I wanted and I too was able to have the back of my bed completely sat up so gravity worked with me. Try not to stress....all will be fine and that baby will make it out one way or another:-)<br /><br />Glad you're having progress on the nursery.....don't worry about that little linea nigra...it will go away eventually. Mine started on the bottom too and then the top filled in....funny thing was the top & bottom didn't line up either...LOL <br /><br />I can't believe you're down to only SEVEN weeks.....awesome!!!<br /><br />As far as having everything set in your mind how you want things to go during the whole labor/birth thing....I seriously don't know ONE person (including myself) that had things go exactly as they "planned".....labor is the most intense pain you'll EVER feel in your life and one that you can't even begin to explain to someone who's never gone through it. Everyone has different levels of pain tolerance and I always thought mine was high UNTIL I was in labor. I never wanted pain medication but soon realized that there was NO WAY I was finishing the process without it once my contractions were one on top of each other with hardly any break in between:-) Just keep your mind open...that's all I'm saying! For every ONE person I talk to that had NO pain meds....there are 10 that did....you're actually in the very small minority if you DON'T end up getting some.Cathy H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06272844448934528579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-1506806099374366532010-05-06T09:22:29.361-05:002010-05-06T09:22:29.361-05:00Wow Jill, I think the nurse you got was a little o...Wow Jill, I think the nurse you got was a little off, unless that hospital is a bit extreme. I was induced with Carley and NEVER got pitocin. My doc said that they don't use it much anymore here. I got this jell substance rubbed around "down there" and then I went walking around the hospital for an hour or so, got into hard labor, then they put in the iv, got into bed and delivered shortly after. Between Kerry and your doula, I'm sure you won't get anything you don't want.<br />Congrats on being IVF debt free! That's awesome!<br />SEVEN weeks left!! Enjoy girl, you are going to miss the belly rubs!<br /><br />CindyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-46565711707325519052010-05-06T09:11:34.772-05:002010-05-06T09:11:34.772-05:00The nursery is coming along! I can't wait to ...The nursery is coming along! I can't wait to see the finished product! <br /><br />Super crazy story from the crazy lady at the hospital! Ha ha<br /><br />And the same here...my belly is getting so large...some things like wiping my bum or not peeing on my hand when I give the urine sample is getting difficult! It is hilarious! I love it all!The Coach's Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16061486602815228319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-18214292450658851782010-05-06T08:55:49.757-05:002010-05-06T08:55:49.757-05:00Wow, that is a crazy story, and a angry-sounding n...Wow, that is a crazy story, and a angry-sounding nurse. Makes you wonder why on earth she was teaching/subbing that class. Not such good PR for the hospital. <br /><br />While I know nothing about this stuff, a doula sounds really nice. An advocate, a person that is very familiar with labor, all that sounds good to me. <br /><br />And the stripes look great so far. It is going to be a really cute nursery!Piehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331859341593997811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-85804083323709772372010-05-06T07:23:21.011-05:002010-05-06T07:23:21.011-05:00We did the same thing in the nursery!!! Take my ad...We did the same thing in the nursery!!! Take my advice, make no judgements at ALL until the tape is removed, lol. I almost started crying when I saw how it looked with the paint tape still up - after all that work. I told Brett we had to redo it...then we removed the tape and it was beautiful!!!!<br /><br />I was getting more and more pissed reading your post about the nurse. How could everybody get pitocin? That is just nuts. why would everyone get pitocin? That totally blew me away! I was induced and never even got pitocin. Unfortunately, I had to be on my back for most of my labor but when I was free to finally move around (gave me a spare hour in between putting in those mesopro thingys) the nurse on duty put herself out finding me a wireless monitor and letting us walk around. Even after my water broke and I got an epidural, they let me put the bed up so I was almost sitting up to let gravity work! I will say this...so long as the baby is doing fine in there, there is no reason you shouldn't be able to labor on your own. It took 23 hours for them to decide to break my water and from that point forward (after an immediate epidural), it went so fast! <br /><br />Also - I looked into Doulas and because I liked what I heard from the nurses, hospital and doctors, I didn't hire one. HOWEVER, my SIL who had 2 prior c-sections that she thinks were unnecessary in retrospect, hired a Doula for her third birth...and she finally gave birth vaginally! The doula really helped her out a lot. She did plan on avoiding an epidural...but had to give in there too at some point. The doula did seem to help a lot. And, she waited until 37 weeks to hire her!Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05323373273366929886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-22740755748100732452010-05-06T07:05:24.547-05:002010-05-06T07:05:24.547-05:00Hire a doula!!! It's seriously the best thing ...Hire a doula!!! It's seriously the best thing I've done yet...though I did change providers AND hospitals as well...but the doula will come to my house and help me labor at home as LONG as possible. I know I will need someone here to remind me that I'm NOT dying and that I CAN do this....<br /><br />Plus she has just been a great support person in these last weeks. <br /><br />I ended up just calling and talking to a few...that part is free you know!'Murgdan'https://www.blogger.com/profile/00740095971968567222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-39795001499221264282010-05-06T02:21:30.976-05:002010-05-06T02:21:30.976-05:00Can't wait to see the finished nursery.
I didn...Can't wait to see the finished nursery.<br />I didn't have to get a IV till I said I wanted an epdural, and was only on coninuous monitoring for the first hour after the prostaglandn gel induction and after my epidural was in. Other than that, they'd put me on it for 5 min or so every hour. Even after my water had broken.<br />There's got to be lower levels of intervention if you're low risk, even if you labour in hospital??<br />Glad you're so far along and all's well!!Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15805727250430361509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211913724523284153.post-83060594417775578582010-05-06T01:38:17.209-05:002010-05-06T01:38:17.209-05:00The nursery looks fantastic. Congratulations on be...The nursery looks fantastic. Congratulations on being debt free! Your little one will be here so soon! <br />I think your idea about trying to have a natural childbirth, but considering an epidural is a good idea. I wanted a natural childbirth but things didn't work out that way for me. An epidural was wonderful for me (once I had labored naturally for long enough). And a doula or birth coach can help you to labor naturally and make you feel supported. <br />Keep us posted on your progress.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17419258143246843192noreply@blogger.com